I admit it it. I am fairly addicted to "Keeping up with the Kardashians". I've been following their lives since they started out in a fairly modest (compared to their current home) suburban home, Kendall and Kylie were little girls, and the older three simply owned a single clothing store in a nearby outlet mall. I guess you could say the show is a guilty pleasure of mine. By now I have grown to like the members of the family and feel invested to know what happens with their lives. Sometimes it's like watching a fairy tale and much of the time it's like watching a train wreck you can't take your eyes off of. I say all that to get to the point that I felt I needed to see what happened with Bruce Jenner.
Besides just honest curiously, I needed to understand what happened with him? What took him down this path of becoming a trans person? I will go ahead and say I know this post will offend people simply because they won't agree with me. I understand and accept that and I hope that you can read this from a perspective of understanding someone else's views and beliefs because that's what I feel like I'm trying to do when I watch that show. I don't watch it just to be entertained, or because it's like the afore mentioned train wreck, I watch it because this topic of LGBTQ issues is not one that is going to go away, it is one that is going to only become more prominent.
I feel like in this southern, Bible Belt, area that I live in, there is so much hate and disgust when this topic is brought up among "Christians". I'm sure some were disgusted by the fact that I said I even watch the show. And I understand that to a degree. Sin should disgust us, because it disgusts God. Anything that pulls people from their relationship with Him disgusts Him. In an earthly sense I can compare it to the feeling of when I feel like someone I am close to, whom I love, is pulling away from me for a reason that I can see is harming them. However, I get the sense that the disgust is for the people as well and not just for the sin and that is heartbreaking to me. I'm tired of mentioning this issue to other Christians and hearing scoffs and how they can't stand to see "those kinds of people" and how they wish they wouldn't be so open with it, and so on and so forth. Don't you see that the only thing that keeps you from being "that kind of person" is your relationship with God? You too were once "that kind of person".
This is exactly why the Christian community is associated with hate, because that, a lot of times, is what people who struggle with this are shown by us. I understand how the prominence and more acceptance of this issue changes things, but guess what, sin in itself is going to only get more prominent and more accepted. Please stop acting like a trans person or homosexuality is worse than lying, or alcoholism, or adultery, or sex outside of marriage, or gluttony, or jealousy, or greed because guess what, all of those things have been ruining marriage long before this came to light. In fact, all of those things have been ruining lives, but we pretend like they aren't as bad because more of us do them.
Back to the television show. I watch "I am Cait" because I would like to have a better understanding of people who struggle with this. How can I build a relationship with people if I have no understanding with what they are going through. No, I will never truly understand what it feels like to feel like you aren't the correct gender, but I know what it feels like to struggle with understanding who I am as a person. It's like we act like people who struggle with gender issues are doing it for attention or something, but believe me, I don't struggle with overeating to get attention. I know to some that's a weak comparison but I believe both are sins and my sin of overeating is just the same in God's eyes. We both will be judged the same. (Isaiah 64:6 talks about how even what we consider to be "good deeds" are filthy rags in God's eyes.)
When I watch this show, it honestly breaks my heart to see and truly understand the struggle those individuals go through, and for many to the point of being suicidal. Sin is heartbreaking and although again, I can never understand feeing that way, I believe it is the same in its' core. We are all struggling to feel whole and to have a purpose in life, and for some they fill the void with sex, with overeating, with lying, with substance abuse, with watching porn, with throwing yourself into a job, and for some by committing to a gender transition. We will only fill that void with Christ in our lives. I won't sugar coat it and say that by becoming a Christian you will never feel that sense of emptiness again. Because as a Christian I'm still tempted and I still sin, I still feel empty and searching for "happiness" at times, and that's when I know that I'm in the wrong and I need to refocus myself on God's purpose for me.
I started this post not as a means to be preachy to those who may be struggling with these issues, and I hope you don't take it that way. Obviously my stance is clear, but I hope you can see that I come from a place of love and desire to understand your hurt and your struggles and get to know you better. For my Christian brothers and sisters, I do mean it preachy. I hope you grow to understand the harm you are doing to how non-believers view our community and the harm you are even possibly projecting on to the kingdom of God. Sorry to be harsh, but it's true. Yes we are to be open and honest in what we believe, but please see that you are not being "bold" in the things you do. You are not being bold in the name of God by posting mean things on social media. You are not being bold when you call out someone you barely know who may be struggling with this sin. What would be bold would be to show unconditional love to people you don't agree with. What would be bold would be to befriend them and to build a relationship despite their sin. (Just a few verses on loving one another- 1 Corinthians 16:14, 1 Peter 4:8) Please don't misunderstand, I'm not saying you should just pretend there is no sin, I'm just saying you are going about it in the wrong way. How can you expect someone who is not following God to act like they are, when you yourself still struggle with sin? All we have to do is be obedient in love. God did not call us to convince people they are wrong and we are right, he called us to be love and I believe the Holy Spirit will begin to soften hearts as we are obedient.
I feel like I have said so much, but I really could go on and on, but I don't want to turn people completely off. I don't like posting these kinds of things because I will admit I'm much too concerned with offending others, but I'm just so tired of Christians being associated with hating others and I wouldn't want anything I've ever said to be portrayed in that way. So I will end in saying if you are reading this and unsure about this whole Christianity thing I would love to explain it more to you. However, I'm not in the business of arguing, no one was ever won over to the kingdom of God through a heated argument. My brothers and sisters in Christ, please learn the difference in being honest, and being honest in a Christ-like and loving way, and I invite you to hold me to that same standard. You can disagree with people and still be love. And remember that there is no sin that could ever bring you or another person so far from God that you cannot return to Him (Luke 15:11-32). He sees your hurting and how you try to make it better with worldly things, and he so desperately just wants you to turn to Him. He alone can fill the void in your life. I love you all!!